Love is Thoughtful
How precious also are your thoughts to me....
How vast is the sum of them! If I should count them,
they would outnumber the sand---Psalm 139:17-18
Love Thinks. It keeps busy in thought, knowing that loving thoughts precede loving actions. When you first fell in love, being thoughtful came quiet naturally. You spent hours dreaming of what your loved one looked like, wondering what he or she is doing, rehearsing impressive things to say, then enjoying sweet memories of the time you spent together.You honestly confessed,"I can't stop thinking about you".
But for most couples, things begin to change. The girl finally has her man; the boy has his trophy. The hunt is over and the pursuing is done. Sparks of romance slowly burn away and the motivation for thoughtfulness cools. You drift into focusing on your job, your friends, your problems, yourself. After a while, you unintentionally begin to ignore the needs of your mate. But the fact that relationship has added another person to your universe does not change. Therefore, if your thinking doesn't mature enough to constantly include that person, you catch yourself being surprised rather than being thoughtful.
If you don't learn to be thoughtful, you end up regretting missed opportunities to demonstrate love. Men struggle with thoughtfulness more than women. A man can focus like a laser on one thing and forget the rest of the world whereas, this can benefit him in that one arena, it can make him overlook the other things that need his attention.
A woman on the other hand, is more multi-conscious, able to maintain an amazing awareness of many factors at once. A woman also thinks rationally. She is cognizant of all the people who are somehow connected to it. As God said," It is not good for man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him".
Men tend to think in headlines and say exactly what they mean. But women think and speak between the lines. They tend to hint. A man has to listen for what is implied if he wants to get the full meaning. If a couple doesn't understand this about one another, the fallout can result in endless disagreements. A woman deeply longs for her man to be thoughtful. It is a key to helping her feel loved.
This also explains why women get upset with their men without telling them why, At the same time, he's grieved because he can't read her mind and wonders why he's being punished for a crime he didn't know he committed.
Love requires thoughtfulness---the kind that builds bridges through the constructive combination of paitence, kindness, and selfishness. Love teaches you how to meet in the middle, to respect and appreciate how your spouse uniquely thinks. The thoughtful nature of love reaches you to engage your mind before engaging your lips. Love thinks before speaking. It filters words through a grid of truth and kindness. Remember a great relationship comes from great thinking.
Today's Dare
Contact Your Spouse Sometime during the Day. Have No Agenda
Other Than Asking How he or she is doing And If she OR he needs
Anything That You Could Do for THEM....
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